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Find yourself a therapist, not a coach.
How therapy can help Do-Gooders.
As we wind down 2022 and start going into holiday mode, i am sharing what I have learnt recently. I will share my favourite books, lessons learnt, things to look out for, and many more in my last episode of 2022.
In my Podcast this week, I discussed the Power of having a therapist instead of a coach and why understanding that a therapist can help you better than a coach. We hide behind hours of coaching and pay them lots of money, but leaders need to combine therapy and coaching. The word therapy is taboo in many countries; it’s like sex, drug and alcohol. People do it every day but do not talk about it. The connotation come with shame. I asked some people why they feel shame in seeing a therapist, and the answer I got was: “I don’t like feeling like a failure; talking about my issues will make me look weak; in my job, I have to show a particular image to my peers”.
A friend asked me to find a coach to help me with my foundation this year. I told her that people needed to understand my vision and mission. But I regretted finding a coach instead of a therapist this year.
I know coaching can be excellent when people are healed from their traumas. I find myself coaching my coach more than he coached me.
Having been in therapy for over 20 years, I realise this was the wrong move. Therapy has helped me find myself, grow, heal, be healthy, master my childhood issues and be more pragmatic with my life journey. I am my own coach therefore just needed a therapist.
In my humble opinion, therapy is better than coaching, and I strongly advise that do-gooders have a therapist, not a coach.
Many people do not know that psychotherapist focuses more on healing you from the past, while coaching focuses on getting you to where you wish to be next, like setting up your SMART goals and giving you clarity and direction in what you want to achieve in life or in your careers.
Do-Gooders see injustice and unfairness and commit to doing something about it. They are fixers. If you think about it in this season seven of my Podcast, people like Raghu Appasani, founder of the mind’s foundation, just want to help people to take care of themselves. I loved…
